I’m a big fan of counting calories. There’s no doubt about that. I talk about it in a number of sites that I write for, and I extoll the virtues of counting to my clients all the time.
However, it’s unreasonable to expect people to count calories until the primordial seas wash over the Earth anew, bringing with them the end of time. That’s neither a healthy nor a sustainable way to live life. If anything it’s a surefire way to make sure you wind up obsessing over minutia.